When behaviours, feelings, thoughts, perceptions seem irrational we have trouble understanding why we feel so afraid, angry, obsessed with little things. We become so angry with ourselves that we believe that we are worthless, hated, unlovable. We become “stuck” or feel “lost”.

Being “stuck” or “lost” are common ingredients in many psychological conditions, such as:

• anxiety,
• depression,
• phobias (social phobia, agoraphobia, specific phobias such as fear of flying),
• worry,
• panic,
• obsessions,
• adolescent rebellion and self-harm,
• drug and alcohol abuse,
• sexual promiscuity or dysfunction (male, female, couples)

Irrational thoughts, feelings and behaviours are driven by states of confusion as if you have lost track of what life is all about. You may know you are unhappy but it is as if you can’t help being that way or that you were born that way and have always been that way. You feel that you can’t change.